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02 Sep

Just Say No

There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking others for help - reaching out when we need assistance, big or small, is an important skill for individuals to learn.  However, there is a flipside to this equation. While we should acknowledge the importance of asking for help, we must also learn how to say no occasionally. The very idea of saying no when others ask for something is difficult for a lot of people. In my experience, people avoid saying no...

20 Aug

A New Theory of Addiction

For a long time, far too long, the dialogue surrounding addiction has been dangerously inaccurate. The belief that the central cause of addiction is the addictive substance itself has influenced the way we treat individuals struggling with addictions, the type of legislation we create to regulate drug use, and often the way we talk to children about drug and alcohol use. But recent research has opened the door to a new way of thinking about addictions. Studies of both rats and...

13 Aug

Reframing Your Goals

Just about everyone will tell you that is important to have goals. You hear it in school, from your parents, from well-meaning friends and co-workers, and on just about every motivational/well-being website. Seriously, the message is everywhere. And for some people, the process of setting and achieving goals is quite simple - they decide what they want and work diligently until they get there. Those people are go-getters, and I admire them. For others, like myself, the prospect of setting...

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29 Jul

Anxiety

Anxiety, while often painful, disruptive, and sometimes debilitating to the person experiencing it, is a completely normal response to a situation that is stressful. The same innate biological responses that cause anxiety in us today were fundamental to our ancestor’s prehistoric survival. Our heart rates speed up, minds race, palms sweat and bodies shake as adrenaline floods our systems, preparing us to fight or run away from a threat. If our bodies hadn’t responded in this manner back in our...

22 Jul

Communicating with Your Partner

It’s likely a familiar situation for most of us – we stand there, looking at our partner, anger and frustration building, and we think, what I need from you right now is obvious, so why aren’t you getting it?  Falling into this logical trap happens to the best of us; we assume that because we have made certain judgments or connections in our own heads, the same must have happened for our partners.  After all, they are supposed to know...

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12 Jul

Ghosting

Relationships can be extremely difficult, sometimes never more so than when they are ending. But what about the relationships that do not offer a typical, messy ending? Ghosting is when someone you care about, a close friend or someone that you have a romantic connection with, disappears from your life by discontinuing contact. Not only has a relationship that you put time and effort into ended - maybe with someone that you were excited about or possibly loved - but it has...

08 Jul

Love Languages

  It's not uncommon for couples who come into my office to express concern that they have lost connection with their partner. They no longer experience the same feelings of love that were present in the beginning of their relationship. Over time relationships change, but with conscious effort and awareness we can learn to change with them. A relationship doesn't have to fizzle simply because it has moved on from the initial infatuation into a stable relationship. You and your partner are different, and each of you feels/experiences love and connection...

01 Jul

A Review of Brené Brown’s “Rising Strong” by Heather Stuart

Book: Rising Strong : The Reckoning, The Rumble, The Revolution (Random House, 2015) By: Brené Brown Reviewed By: Heather Stuart What I liked about the book: I listened to the audiobook version of Rising Strong, as I think that Brown’s writing style lends very well to this format. What I really enjoy about Brené Brown is her ability to speak to her audience honestly and with a narrative voice that makes you feel like she is talking with you over coffee. Rising Strong is...

25 Jun

What is EMDR?

  EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing. EMDR is a form of psychotherapy that has been researched and proven effective in the treatment of PTSD and other mental health related problems. Using standardized protocols, it is a very scripted form of therapy. The focus of EMDR is not on talking or discussion, but on helping the brain process negative memories using bilateral stimulation, accomplished through guided eye movements or tactile stimulation. The bilateral stimulation is utilized to help the brain release...

17 Jun

Redefining Productivity – The Bliss Way

Productivity cannot always be measured by how much has been crossed off of your daily to-do list or the number of job ladders climbed in your life. Tallying tasks or goals completed will leave you feeling overwhelmed and frustrated on days when you simply couldn’t do all that you had anticipated, or after a year that didn't produce the outcomes you had hoped for. We all have those days, and those years, but if you focus on what you didn't accomplish you will...